Friday, 8th April 2022, 05:30pm Boardroom

Event Status: Past

Bible Study Report – Held on Friday, 8th April 2022 in the Boardroom

Attendees

  1. Martin Muthee
  2. Monica Muthee
  3. Catherine Chege
  4. James Kinyanjui
  5. Nellius Kinyanjui
  6. Fred Barasa
  7. Agatha Barasa

Apologies

  1. Pius Gitonga
  2. Nancy Gitonga
  3. Victor Kariuki
  4. Josephine Kariuki
  5. William Mbuthia
  6. Martha Mbuthia
  7. Samuel Gichuhi
  8. Catherine Gichuhi

Biblical Passage/scripture: 

Romans 3:10-12 | Ephesians 4:25-32

Questions

1. Do you think that your relationship will have conflicts? Why or why not?

Members agreed that all relationships and marriages have conflicts. The following were listed as some of the causes of conflicts;

  • Differences in ideologies.
  • Lack of proper communication.
  • Misunderstandings.
  • Egocentric actions and thoughts. A bit of kujipenda where a partner thinks and acts in a way that they are comfortable with, without factoring in the other person’s feelings.
  • Differences in upbringing and environments of growth. These shape people differently, and the differences may sometime lead to conflicts.

 

2. What command about communication can you find in this verse (v25)? 

Honesty – avoiding lies; being truthful; being open to each other; not keeping secrets.

  • It is important for partners to be open to each other as discussed last week. It was reported that sometimes partners are not open/honest to each other for fear of the other person’s reaction. Members concluded that partners must nurture trust and then develop towards total vulnerability to each other. This will eradicate such fears.

3. What is the negative which you should NOT do? 

  • Do not lie (v25).
  • Do not stay angry for long (v26). We agreed that it is not advisable to solve a conflict when everyone is angry. Therefore, one may end up resting overnight and then solve the issues the next day when everyone’s calm. The bottom line is that the conflict should not be allowed to continue unresolved for days. When one is angry, the devil takes advantage and brings negative thoughts into one’s mind. Why did I even marry this one? I wish I married a better person? Or maybe I should look for another person now? Maybe I should just quit. Etc. Deny the devil this opportunity by resolving issues on time (v27).
  • Do not continue with the ills you were engaging in; change (v28).
  • Do not engage in talk that can demean or hurt your partner (v29). Even when angry, resist the urge to say anything painful to your partner.
  • Get rid of negative feelings and actions – bitterness, rage, anger, quarrel, slander, and malice (v31).

In addition…

  1. As a couple, we must always work towards a common goal. This will help ensure everyone focuses on the same thing, leading to openness.
  2. These Bible studies reveal that most marital challenges are common. Therefore, couples should not feel like what they are going through at any point is very unique and so their relationship is irreparable. No, we all go through these issues and together we can all deal with them.
  3. Marriage is permanent. It is always good to have this in mind even when disagreeing.

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Next meetup

Continuation of the Communication Bible study in the Cathedral on Sunday, 10th April 2022 after the Palm Sunday service. We’ll tackle the three remaining questions.

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